Stavros ressurrected a favourite description of the right relationship between parents and children, and Devious Diva provided a wonderfully illustrated version.  And thanks to Ismini, too, for the third YouTube clip which is a nice contrast to the first and which comes from one talented man, JamesatWar.  I’ve added in a clip of Andrew Johnston singing Pie Jesu. Andrew was one of the three finalists on Britain’s got Talent last weekend.  He didn’t win, even though we voted for him eleven times!  It was particularly poignant for us, knowing that, the following day, we were going the hear the famous boys’ choir of Kings College School, Cambridge sing at a godson’s confirmation.

Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.

You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them,
but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.

You are the bows from which your children
as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
and He bends you with His might
that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let our bending in the archer’s hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
so He loves also the bow that is stable.

Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet